My brutally honest opinion of tinder

I think tinder is a bit like marmite, you’re either going to love it or hate it. If you want a quick one night stand, or some FWB situation…this app is probably for you. However, if you want to find marriage material or some knight in shinning armour, realistically you’re probably not going to find him (or her) on tinder.

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I know so many people who really love tinder. It’s quick, easy, and like online shopping, easily accessible in your pyjamas with a glass of wine! Yes I know people who’ve had relationships with people they’ve met on tinder. But right now, I can only think of one which has actually lasted.

Swiping through the hordes of topless pouty gym selfies, drunk club photos, and scenic pictures from shooting ranges of lads in their country best (well maybe that’s a Yorkshire thing?)…I just sort of lose hope! I just find Tinder so false and forced, and basically just a game. I’ve only ever met my ex’s naturally in real life, and that’s how I hope to meet people in the future. However, right now I’m in a place where I have literally no interest in men. I’m currently having some selfish Lucy time, figuring out what I want to do in life. But if this was what I was up against, I’d choose cocktails with one of my girls over a date with one of these idiots any day!

The problem I have with tinder is that all I’m basically trying to do is find my paper. And I actually did once.  We went on a few dates and he actually seemed the most perfect guy I’ve ever met! But here’s a good life lesson: them attributes you think you really want in a person, aren’t always what you want or need IRL. But that’s the thing with tinder, it’s ALL about looks and how you present yourself online. Which in my opinion, isn’t the foundation of a successful relationship. Like where exactly do you draw the line from how you present yourself online, and who you actually are as a person? I’m not even going to lie, if I’d have saw some of my ex’s on tinder before meeting them, I’d have probably swiped left. Because tinder does that to you, it just gives you the opportunity to be super picky and judgemental.

The problem with 2017 is that technology has made every thing we do in life so easy. But can technology really simplify relationships and dating? Probably not. But can technology get you a quick hook up on a Friday night? Probably yes..

What are your thoughts on tinder? Let me know in the comments!

 

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6 thoughts on “My brutally honest opinion of tinder

  1. Abii brown says:

    I met my partner on tinder back in 2015, he was based in Sunderland, so travelling back and forth to see each other was a hassle BUT we had a connection, we spent a full year long distance travelling from Leeds to Sunderland, middlesbrough to Newcastle and now look at us, 2 years later we are still together and moved in! Plenty of more years for us to come, Can’t thank tinder enough really 🙈 I wasn’t purposely looking for love on tinder but I found it anyways

    • LifeOFLuce says:

      That’s so lovely! I struggled being long distance before, but what you’ve said just proves if there’s something really there, you’ve got the motivation to keep going ❤️ Sometimes it just happens when you don’t expect it to! You’ve definitely give me hope again 😂🙈

  2. laurenellen says:

    I completely agree with a lot of this post! I used to use tinder and was so picky with who I swiped right for as it does make you so judgmental of people which is really wrong. I started to get fed up of it after a while until I met my boyfriend off of it. I do think you can still get relationships off it although very few people are on it for that. Great post! 🙂

    http://lovelaurenellen.com

    • LifeOFLuce says:

      Maybe I need to stop being so negative with tinder! I said to my friend you’re basically trying to find a unicorn in a sea of fuck boys 😂🙈 I’ll give your blog a read now xx

      • laurenellen says:

        That is very true haha but its possible I suppose, I guess it takes time to be able to tell from a quick conversation what someone is looking for 🙂 good luck tho 🙂 x

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